I. God—“Quiet time” (RENEW)

• People can’t renew you. They deplete you.
• “And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed” (Mark 1:35 ESV).
• How to spend time with God
  • Start with a private church service (worship).
  • Pray in the Spirit and in the understanding.
  • Read a daily Bible plan.

II. Spouse—“Talk time” (CONNECT)

• Intimacy is the process of self-disclosure.
• Routines: walks, meals, date nights
• Listening: focus on connection
• Levels of intimacy: cliches, facts, opinions, dreams, feelings, failures, needs

III. Children—“Quality time” (NURTURE)

• “The biggest need a child has is quality time.”
• “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4 ESV, emphasis added).
• Allow for 15 minutes a day of quality time for each child.
• Participate in their activities and big days. Have a weekly family night.

IV. Small group—“Fellowship time” (ENCOURAGE)

• “Believers need a church to hear the Word and a small group to hear their heart.”
• “And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts” (Acts 2:46 ESV).
• Temple: hearing the apostles’ doctrine
• Homes: breaking bread for fellowship

V. Extended family—“Hang time” (HONOR)

• God gave you your parents, your family, and your friends. Honor them as gifts from God.
• “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land” (Ephesians 6:2–3 ESV).