Message Outline

What does it mean to be a disciple?

Disciples

Wednesday, Sep 9, 2026

Matthew 4:18-22 (NLT) 18 One day as Jesus was walking along the shore of the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers--Simon, also called Peter, and Andrew--throwing a net into the water, for they fished for a living. 19 Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!” 20 And they left their nets at once and followed him. 21 A little farther up the shore he saw two other brothers, James and John, sitting in a boat with their father, Zebedee, repairing their nets. And he called them to come, too. 22 They immediately followed him, leaving the boat and their father behind.

1. LEAVE

  • The goal here is establishing Lordship! 
  • The principles of leaving something
    • Abraham left
    • Jacob left
    • Moses left
    • Elijah left
    • God meets us when we are willing to separate ourselves. 
  • Every time Jesus called somebody, following required leaving.
    • Peter and Andrew left NETS.
    • Matthew left a TABLE.
    • Others left old identities, ambitions, priorities and ways of living.
  • You can’t go somewhere great unless you’re willing to leave where you are!
  • Leaving determines Lordship
    • Luke 14:26 (NLT) “If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else--your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple.
  • The truest test of your discipleship is LORDSHIP! - Who is in Charge
    • Jesus doesn’t become part of my life. Jesus becomes LORD of my life.
  • A fan can admire Jesus and retain control.
  • A disciple submits control.
    • My sexuality belongs to Jesus.
    • My money belongs to Jesus.
    • My relationships belong to Jesus.
    • My ambitions belong to Jesus.
    • My time belongs to Jesus.
    • My future belongs to Jesus.
    • My opinions are submitted to Jesus.
  • The question is not merely, “Do I believe in Jesus?”
  • The deeper question: “Am I actually following Jesus?”

2. LEARN

  • The point here is establishing a heart to study, watch, learn from Christ. He wants to teach us. 
  • Matthew 11:28-30 (NLT) 28 Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”
  • This is the posture of a disciple.
  • Jesus is my TEACHER. I am His STUDENT.
  • We are not simply learning information ABOUT Jesus.
  • The old picture of discipleship was a student walking so closely behind his rabbi that he would be “covered in the dust of the rabbi.”
  • The idea: stay close enough to watch him, hear him, learn his ways, and eventually become like him.
  • Our goal is to stay so close to Jesus that HIS DUST GETS ON US.
  • We are learning HOW TO LIVE from Jesus.
    • Learn to THINK like Christ — our philosophy
    • Learn to BE like Christ — our character
    • Learn to ACT like Christ — our ministry
  • Jesus, teach me how You think about money.
    • Teach me how You handle enemies.
    • Teach me how You treat people.
    • Teach me how You pray.
    • Teach me how You forgive.
    • Teach me how You handle suffering.
    • Teach me what You value.
    • Teach me how You serve.
  • Gradually, HIS WAY BECOMES MY WAY.

How Does Jesus Form Us?

  • Looking at mature disciples, four things continually show up:

GOD MOMENTS

  • There are moments when God encounters us and something changes.
  • Some are planned — baptism, communion, worship, prayer.
  • Some are unplanned.
  • They come from pursuit — draw close to God.
  • My life has been shaped by God moments.

SPIRITUAL RHYTHMS

  • Revivals are exciting, but rhythms are sustaining.
  • Bible
  • Prayer
  • Fasting
  • Gathering
  • Serving.

GODLY RELATIONSHIPS

  • Proximity to people changes people.
  • Jesus could have chosen any strategy. He chose PROXIMITY and TIME.
  • Three years — meals, roads, boats, campfires, conversations.
  • People will be formed by the relationships they choose to embrace.

IDENTITY RENEWAL

  • Jesus was infamous for changing people’s identities.
  • Peter — Jesus saw Simon, but spoke toward who he was becoming.
  • People who cling to old identities and cannot find their new identity in Christ are always stifled.
  • Teach yourself to see the distinction between the old self and the new self.
  • All four are helping us LEARN CHRIST.

3. LOVE

  • The point here is that we are not just invited to learn from Christ, but we are invited to be loved by Him, and to love Him. 
  • John 15:14-15 (NLT) 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me.
  • Our discipleship with Jesus is RELATIONAL, not TRANSACTIONAL.
    • Christianity is not: I obey Jesus → Jesus gives me blessings.
  • Jesus does not merely want students who can pass an exam.
  • He wants people who LOVE HIM.
  • The Ephesians Church
    • Revelation 2:4-5 (NLT) 4 “But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first! 5 Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you don’t repent, I will come and remove your lampstand from its place among the churches.
    • The Ephesian church had doctrine, endurance and discernment — but lost their first love.
  • The danger: learning the ways of Jesus while slowly losing affection for Jesus Himself.
    • Don’t let Bible reading become merely a discipline — you’re meeting with Someone.
    • Don’t let prayer become a task — you’re talking with Someone.
    • Don’t let worship become music — you’re loving Someone.
  • John 13:35 (NLT) Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
    • LOVE JESUS DEEPLY.
    • LOVE PEOPLE LIKE JESUS.
  • You cannot become like Jesus without becoming more loving.

4. LIVE

  • Eventually Jesus says: Now do what you’ve seen Me do.
  • Matthew 10:1 (NLT) Jesus called his twelve disciples together and gave them authority to cast out evil spirits and to heal every kind of disease and illness.
  • Matthew 10:7-8 (NLT) 7 Go and announce to them that the Kingdom of Heaven is near. 8 Heal the sick, raise the dead, cure those with leprosy, and cast out demons. Give as freely as you have received!
  • One of the coolest things about following Jesus is that we get to do what HE DID! 
    • Jesus healed people. We can heal people
    • Jesus served people. We can serve people 
    • Jesus proclaimed the Kingdom. We can too
    • Jesus cared for outsiders. We will too. 
    • Jesus prayed.
    • Jesus gave.
    • Jesus forgave.
    • Jesus made disciples.
  • Eventually the student begins doing what the Teacher does.
  • John 14:12 (NLT) “I tell you the truth, anyone who believes in me will do the same works I have done, and even greater works, because I am going to be with the Father.
  • Part of LIVING like Him will be to LEAD like him. 
  • You are called to help others follow Jesus. 
    • A true disciple will eventually help somebody else follow Jesus.
  • Discipleship is simply HELPING OTHERS FOLLOW JESUS.
    • You don’t need seminary.
    • You don’t need a title.
    • You don’t need to lead a group.
  • You just have to be following Jesus closely enough that you can turn to somebody behind you and say, “Come with me.”

Closing:

  • Recap
  • LEAVE — What do I need to surrender?
  • LEARN — What is Jesus trying to teach me?
  • LOVE — Is my relationship with Jesus actually alive?
  • LIVE — Where am I becoming like Jesus, and who am I helping follow Him?
  • Luke 6:40 — “The student who is fully trained will become like the teacher.”
  • Imagine an entire church becoming like Jesus.
  • The more like Christ people become, the more like heaven earth becomes.
  • We are not trying to produce better church attenders.
  • We are trying to become like Jesus.

Table Talk:

  • Question 1 - How has your view of Christianity been different from what we discussed in this session? Have you viewed Christianity as a religion, a belief, or an invitation to discipleship?
  • Question 2 - What is the hardest thing for you to leave right now, that you feel Christ is asking you to leave behind in order to follow Him?
  • Question 3 - How would you describe the way you perceive Christ’s love towards you, and your love towards Him? Is it alive or dead? 

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